Singleness.

Do you ever have those moments when it’s 2 A.M. and you’re laying in bed alone and have no one to talk to and you feel so lonely? Or how about when you’re scrolling through Facebook or Instagram and see all your friends engagement photos and you feel like your life is not as great as everyone else’s?

I feel like this often.

I feel lonely.

A lot of times I think, “if I just had a boyfriend then I wouldn’t feel lonely.” And so many of us get into relationships because we haven’t learned how to be by ourselves.

We think that “if I just had a man,” or “if I was just in a relationship,” then we would finally be fufilled and be happy. Yet, some of the loneliest people are those in marriages and relationships.

Why? Because we didn’t learn how to live with our singleness.

You are at a moment in your life when you have no other responsibilities except to yourself. If you want to spend $100 on a pair of shoes, you can. If you want to go away on a girls trip for the weekend, you can. When you get in a marriage, it’s not your money anymore – it’s ours. When you get married it’s not your life anymore – it’s ours.

In the beginning, God created one man, not a couple. You’ll see in this passage before God ever mentioned a partner He gave Adam a PURPOSE. He PLACED Adam where he was supposed to be, gave Adam a purpose, and once his purpose was fulfilled THEN He blessed Adam with a partner.

“The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it…“Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam no suitable helper was found.”

‭‭Genesis‬ ‭2:19-20‬ ‭NIV‬‬

‭‭God wants to give you vision in your singleness.

He wants to give you purpose.

He wants you to know who you are without someone else.

If you don’t know that, it will lead you to always needing someone else to validate who God has created you to be.

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GOD BLESS!!

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All we need to know

It’s been awhile since I’ve posted, but all I want to tell you is something that I’ve had to constantly remind myself of, especially in these past couple of weeks:

God is with me.

God Loves me.

God will take care of me.

God is for me.

God will get me through.

This, is all you need to know.

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We Have to Take Care of Ourselves

Last night, a friend of mine had an extremely bad anxiety attack. She was so stressed she couldn’t breathe, had hives, and had swelling and it got so bad she had to go to the emergency room. When I talked to her today I asked her how she felt and she said, “stuff like this doesn’t happen to me. I’m supposed to be the strong one for my friends and my mom. This isn’t me! I’ve dealt with stress before and I don’t understand why this happened to me today.”

I said this to her, but I feel like some of y’all need to  hear this too: You have to take care of yourself emotionally, and mentally or you will wear yourself out. 

We are always taught to exercise and eat right but we are seldom told to give our minds a rest and give our hearts a rest. Unfortunately, we can’t be superwomen all the time. Our bodies cannot handle constant stress, constant anxiety, and constant exhaustion. You MUST take time to revive you soul and your mind or you will have physical reactions to your mental neglect.

How do we take a break? It’s different for every person. For me, I turn my phone off and sit and watch my favorite TV show/Movie and eat bad food for a couple of hours. I put away the homework and turn off my distractions and just take sometime to breathe and be by myself.  ( If you want to learn of others ways to reduce stress click here)

Another thing I do, which some of you may not agree with, is counseling. I go to counseling every week for an hour and just talk to someone about life. If you are a college student, guess what? You school probably offers free to little cost counseling and I strongly recommend taking advantage of it. Even if you only go once a month or every week, it’s always a good idea to talk to someone and get things off your chest.

God never intended humans to feel the pains of stress or anxiety, but because of The Fall we do. Fortunately, our God is awesome and has given us words of encouragement that are meant to bring us peace. Click here for a great link to some encouraging Bible verses when you are feeling anxious or stressed. One that always calms me down and gives me hope is Isaiah 43:2; It says:

When you pass through the waters,
    I will be with you;
and when you pass through the rivers,
    they will not sweep over you.
When you walk through the fire,
    you will not be burned;
    the flames will not set you ablaze.

Isaiah 43:2

God tells us in His word come hell or high water He will be with us and He will protect us. The devil will try his best but he will always fail when it comes to our Lord.

I pray that you go in peace and that you never forget that God is the Rock that you can lean on.

How do you deal with anxiety and stress? Let me know your tips and suggestions!

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It Sucks Being Stuck

Some of y’all know that my sophomore year of college was probably the worst of my life. I felt unwanted, unloved, and unnecessary.

This year, so far, I feel the complete opposite. The Lord has granted me peace that passes all understanding and has opened my eyes to His faithfulness.

But there’s one thing that has changed in these past two years and that’s my friend group.

My sophomore year I didn’t surround myself with friends that were good for me and what I needed. Now, I’m not saying they’re bad people- in fact I would say the opposite. They are funny and kind, but at the time that’s not what I needed; but I felt if I stopped having them as friends then I would have no friends. I decided I’d rather be in a toxic friendship than be alone.

I felt stuck.

Has that ever happened to you?

Maybe not in a friendship, maybe in a relationship. Maybe you dated someone who made you feel less than or made you feel like you couldn’t be yourself. Instead of leaving you chose to stay because you didn’t want to hurt their feelings or be by yourself.

Have you felt stuck?

Are you stuck right now?

Here are 5 questions we should ask to help us determine if a friendship/relationship is worth keeping around:

1. Is this person pushing me closer to Christ?

By pushing I don’t mean bible thumping, but does this person encourage you to be more Christ-like? Are they holding you accountable? Do you pray for each other and/or with each other?

2. Does this person make me feel loved and wanted?

After you hangout with that person do you feel good or bad about yourself? Do they encourage you? Do they put you down?

3. Can I be myself around this person?

It’s exhausting to be someone you’re not. Do you feel comfortable enough to express your feelings around them? Or your opinions?

4. Can you trust this person?

Can you tell them your deepest secret and trust them not to share it? Do you trust them with your reputation?

If you answered yes to all these then congrats! You have a good friendship/relationship.

If you answered no to atleast 2 maybe you should take a step back and revaluate your friendships/relationships. This doesn’t mean you need to cut them off and never speak to them again, but maybe you need to sit down and ask yourself if this person is healthy and good for you mentally and spiritually.

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This is not a Joke!

This morning I found out that a friend of mine committed suicide.

Sadly, it wasn’t incredibly shocking.

So often we brush mental illness under the rug or treat it like it’s not a very big deal.

MENTAL ILLNESS IS NOT A JOKE.

It’s not a choice and it’s not a crock. It’s real and it hurts.

If someone tells you they are struggling with depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, etc. don’t just write them off. It takes courage and strength to admit to yourself, let alone someone else, that your hurting.

Instead of telling them to get over it or buck up, pray with them and then pray for them continuously. Be their rock when they can’t stand on their own two feet. Treat them with respect, love, and kindness.

Love them.

Love them hard.

>>> this is my second friend in 3 years that has committed suicide. Please don’t be like me. Don’t feel guilty and ashamed because you wish you would’ve done more. Instead do more.

This is a terrible feeling to have and one that I cannot express

If you or a loved one are thinking about committing suicide PLEASE call this number:

1-800-273-8255

Or you can always inbox me and I will talk with you and pray with you.

Please take mental illness seriously.

Just Breathe…

Quick Post!

It’s almost Midterms – AAAHH!

Everyone is stressed out and exhausted. We’re all just trying to get to Christmas Break with a decent GPA and somehow keep up friendships, relationships, and extracurriculars.

If you feel stressed, or tired I have some advice:

TAKE THE NIGHT OFF.

Yes, I said it.

Put down the book and let down your hair.

Stress only brings you wrinkles and acne.

Also, make sure that you are spending time with the Lord and staying in relationship with Him.

I know when I’m stressed out I put Jesus on the back burner, but those are the times I need Him the most. It’s crazy the peace He brings you and the joy that

floods your life.

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

Philippians 4:6-7

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Thank God 🙌🏾

Very, very, very short post:

GIVE. GOD. THANKS.

Even if life kinda sucks right now or things just aren’t going as you would want them too, just stop for a minute and thank God for what He has done for you and has given you.

Not only does He deserve your thanks, He requires it.

So take 1 minute – 60 seconds (or more) and give Him your thanks!

“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”

1 Thessalonians 5:18

It’s been a year

The past year has been a tough one.

I went through a rough patch and had to dropout of school for a year and work on myself. I felt like a failure and I was so embarrassed. Why would God do this to me? Why couldn't I just go to school like a normal 20 year old and get decent grades and have good friendships?

I was so frusterated God and with myself. I felt like a bad statistic  and hated myself for not being mentally strong and healthy enough to stay in school.

But, after a year off I am back in college and just finished my first day of college. The crazy thing is I'm feeling an emotion I haven't felt in so long: hope.

Why? honestly I don't know, but I think it has something to do with a game I played the other night called "The 36 Questions that Lead to Love." The idea of the game is if you and a person answer each question honestly then you will fall in love by the end. My friend and I didn't end up falling in love, but we found out a lot of deep and beautiful things about the other person.

One of the questions asked each of us to share a positive characteristic about the other person and what my friend said about me has yet to leave my mind- he said,

"I admire your strength. You are coming back to a place where you had the worst year of your life and you're here with a smile. You show me that sometimes you just have to push through and get up every morning and do things that you don't want to too be successful. You inspire me."

Strength??
All this time I thought I was weak and a failure and my friend says he sees strength? At first I was confused but now I understand.
Though his words were kind and sweet he missed something that sometimes I miss too: I am not strong- God is.
He is my rock and my fortress. He promises me in the book of Isaiah that I can lean on him and he will help me stand.

But those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint. – Isaiah 40:31

Through the hard times and through the sad times, let God be your strength. He is waaay stronger than you, your problems, your sadness, your sickness and even the devil.
His love a strength surpasses others.

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“The Lord bless you and keep you;the Lord make his face shine on youand be gracious to you;the Lord turn his face toward youand give you peace.”’

God’s Got You

First off- Hey Everyone! 

I know I’ve taken a bit of a hiatus but I’m back and ready to give you all some more Godly advice, prayer, and leadership. 

For those who don’t know, I am home for school this semester and last. Instead of taking traditional classes I’ve been taking classes online which has set me back a bit. MY plan was to graduate in 2018 like all of my friends and go on to start my career right after. 

Like I said it was MY plan, not God’s. 

My future is very up in the air right now and I’m not sure what’s gonna happen within the next month, let alone a year or two from now. 

But you know what?

It’s okay. 

I’ve come to realize I’ve been planning my entire life out when I should’ve gotten on my knees and ask God to let HIS will be done. 

I’m writing about this because I know I’m definitely not the only person who struggles with this. I would say almost every Christian I know has had the struggle of choosing between what they want and what God wants. 

It’s hard.

We are taught that we are supposed to reach certain goals and to go certain ways. It has been ingrained in us to do our own thing, but not stray to far off the “normal” path that the world has set for us. 

But what about the path God has planned for us? 

Jeremiah, a prophet, struggled with the same thing. He just wanted to be a normal guy with a normal life and family. God came to him one day and said, “Hey, Jeremiah, I need you to preach to the nations about me, oh and also tell everyone that I’m going to destroy Israel.” (Just so you know, I’m paraphrasing. God said it way better) 

Jeremiah, like most of us, gave excuses of why he couldn’t do what God has asked, because it was not in his plan. He said,”God, I’m too young! No one will listen to me and I’m a terrible speaker.” 

God came back and said,”I have set you apart BEFORE YOU WERE EVEN BORN for the task that I have given you. And don’t worry about your age because I will ensure that those older than you will listen to you. Oh, and don’t worry that you’re a terrible speaker for I will give you the words to say.”

A: God is savage.

B: God made sure Jeremiah knew that No matter what, God would be with Jeremiah every step of the way to ensure the fulfillment of God’s plan for him. 

Because Jeremiah may have been more of a visual learner God said,

“Then the LORD said to me, “Look, Jeremiah! What do you see?” And I replied, “I see a branch from an almond tree.” And the LORD said, “That’s right, and it means that I am watching, and I will certainly carry out all my plans.””

‭‭Jeremiah‬ ‭1:11-12‬ ‭NLT‬‬

If God would do all this for a young boy would He not do the same for you or for me?? 

Throughout this year God has reminded me time and time again that His plans are always greater and that even when they are scary, I am not alone. 

You are not alone. 

So I challenge you to ask God what plans He has for you and then LISTEN to what He says, and then DO what He says. 

“For I know the plans I have for you,” says the LORD. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. In those days when you pray, I will listen. If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me.”

‭‭Jeremiah‬ ‭29:11-13 NLT

 

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“The Lord bless you and keep you;the Lord make his face shine on youand be gracious to you;the Lord turn his face toward youand give you peace.”’

Overcome Evil with Good

Tonight I was reading through Romans 12 and it resonated with my soul and was applicable to many things in my life, and others as well. 

As young adults, and as humans in general, there is always drama somewhere. Sometimes it’s small and is over with as soon as it begins, but sometimes it’s life altering and relationships can be lost. Recently, I’ve lost quite a few relationships and instead of being mature and acting like the Lord instructs us I combated hate with hate, gossip with gossip, and subtweet with subtweet. I knew in my heart it was wrong but I thought it would make me feel better and make me the “winner” but all it did was make me feel worse with every rude comment and hateful retaliation. 

I’m no theologian and I haven’t studied Romans 12 very much, but I think the reason I felt so crummy was because I was trying to get revenge that wasn’t mine. 

“Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.”

God says if someone has wronged you don’t worry about plotting your revenge or your next subtweet or cryptic post because it’s His revenge anyway. But instead of hating them, love them. 

 On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. 

“Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”

When God said not to overcome evil with evil I don’t think He was just trying to give us one more thing to follow but I think He knew that it would only leave us unhappy, unjoyful, and unsatisfied. He knew spewing words of hate would lead to regret rather than fulfillment.

If I had to sum up the entire passage in one phrase it would be this: God’s got you. 

I thank the Lord that He’s on my side, and I hope you will know and put your faith in the fact that He’s on yours too! 
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