Do you ever have those moments when it’s 2 A.M. and you’re laying in bed alone and have no one to talk to and you feel so lonely? Or how about when you’re scrolling through Facebook or Instagram and see all your friends engagement photos and you feel like your life is not as great as everyone else’s?

I feel like this often.

I feel lonely.

A lot of times I think, “if I just had a boyfriend then I wouldn’t feel lonely.” And so many of us get into relationships because we haven’t learned how to be by ourselves.

We think that “if I just had a man,” or “if I was just in a relationship,” then we would finally be fufilled and be happy. Yet, some of the loneliest people are those in marriages and relationships.

Why? Because we didn’t learn how to live with our singleness.

You are at a moment in your life when you have no other responsibilities except to yourself. If you want to spend $100 on a pair of shoes, you can. If you want to go away on a girls trip for the weekend, you can. When you get in a marriage, it’s not your money anymore – it’s ours. When you get married it’s not your life anymore – it’s ours.

In the beginning, God created one man, not a couple. You’ll see in this passage before God ever mentioned a partner He gave Adam a PURPOSE. He PLACED Adam where he was supposed to be, gave Adam a purpose, and once his purpose was fulfilled THEN He blessed Adam with a partner.

“The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it…“Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam no suitable helper was found.”

‭‭Genesis‬ ‭2:19-20‬ ‭NIV‬‬

‭‭God wants to give you vision in your singleness.

He wants to give you purpose.

He wants you to know who you are without someone else.

If you don’t know that, it will lead you to always needing someone else to validate who God has created you to be.

As always, if you need prayer or want to share your testimony comments or message me!

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9 thoughts on “Singleness.

  1. Loneliness also affects older people who have loved, been married, and lost through hard fought illness. I hear your thinking, and you are right. I am still coming to terms with my own loneliness after 11 years! Thanks for your youthful insight.

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  2. I love this. We have to love ourselves, and be comfortable with ourselves, before we can give any part of ourselves to someone else.

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