Some of y’all know that my sophomore year of college was probably the worst of my life. I felt unwanted, unloved, and unnecessary.
This year, so far, I feel the complete opposite. The Lord has granted me peace that passes all understanding and has opened my eyes to His faithfulness.
But there’s one thing that has changed in these past two years and that’s my friend group.
My sophomore year I didn’t surround myself with friends that were good for me and what I needed. Now, I’m not saying they’re bad people- in fact I would say the opposite. They are funny and kind, but at the time that’s not what I needed; but I felt if I stopped having them as friends then I would have no friends. I decided I’d rather be in a toxic friendship than be alone.
I felt stuck.
Has that ever happened to you?
Maybe not in a friendship, maybe in a relationship. Maybe you dated someone who made you feel less than or made you feel like you couldn’t be yourself. Instead of leaving you chose to stay because you didn’t want to hurt their feelings or be by yourself.
Have you felt stuck?
Are you stuck right now?
Here are 5 questions we should ask to help us determine if a friendship/relationship is worth keeping around:
1. Is this person pushing me closer to Christ?
By pushing I don’t mean bible thumping, but does this person encourage you to be more Christ-like? Are they holding you accountable? Do you pray for each other and/or with each other?
2. Does this person make me feel loved and wanted?
After you hangout with that person do you feel good or bad about yourself? Do they encourage you? Do they put you down?
3. Can I be myself around this person?
It’s exhausting to be someone you’re not. Do you feel comfortable enough to express your feelings around them? Or your opinions?
4. Can you trust this person?
Can you tell them your deepest secret and trust them not to share it? Do you trust them with your reputation?
If you answered yes to all these then congrats! You have a good friendship/relationship.
If you answered no to atleast 2 maybe you should take a step back and revaluate your friendships/relationships. This doesn’t mean you need to cut them off and never speak to them again, but maybe you need to sit down and ask yourself if this person is healthy and good for you mentally and spiritually.
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